By Jeff Emmerson
OK, friends: Adult ADHD and confidence…here we go. A topic that needs desperate attention to be sure. Let me first say that at the age of thirty-seven, I’m really just starting to feel truly confident in who I am from an identity perspective. Identity is such a massive factor ofo self-confidence, and finally being diagnosed at the age of thirty-five has opened my eyes and is truly setting me free as years are passing. Sure, it’s far from easy with this condition, but let me tell you 600% that adult ADHD and confidence ARE absolutely possible and doable! There’s a puzzle we need to gradually piece together as we get older through self-insight and the desire to figure ourselves out. If you or someone you know is in denial about reaching deeper to uncover the challenges getting in their way, then the road will be hard, long and extremely frustrating. Once I opened up, accepted myself and sought knowledge on adult ADHD, my life began to change, bit by bit, and now I’m well on my way with a true sense of self. Nothing could be more important as I see it. Everything starts with our sense of self.
It takes patience with each baby step we take, but the journey is truly our reward, and sometimes it just takes a change in the way we look at life. Yes, we’ll have to be aware (every single day) of our emotional moods, our outlook, and that can quickly change when life throws new challenges our way. That said, surrounding yourself with supportive friends and people is another tool for developing self-esteem, a stronger feeling of purpose, and helping you find your own way in the world, as opposed to “what others say you should do.” The moment I stopped trying to please others and started being true to myself was, ironically, the very moment I began to feel at peace in my life, and started to make progress toward my dreams. It’s funny how adult ADHD and confidence can seem worlds apart, yet with the slightest change in perspective, be right there, as close as the deepest of friends.
That’s proof that we can do great things, whatever your goals are. Simply enjoying a life of more peace, joy and purpose is the greatest victory of all for those of us with adult ADHD, so remember to be gentle on yourself in this journey! I remind myself of that all the time, especially when I’m in public during moments when others don’t seem very nice. We’re all on our own path in this life, so remember not to take things too seriously all the time, hanging on what others think. That has been a tough one for me, but I’m learning, growing, and working hard at following my heart through this blog, my up-coming memoir, and making friends all over the world. That’s what I call true success, and no, it doesn’t have to be pretty. It’s STILL success. Heck – in this world, nothing is a fairytale, and no success is without hardship and challenges. The sooner we all accept that and carry on with true purpose come rain or shine, the sooner we’re on the true path to a live fully lived. Period.
…Better later than never, as Daryl Hall of the music group Hall & Oates said during the concert in August, 2006 – the night my up-coming memoir was born out of creative, emotional inspiration. Don’t worry: it’s all explained in the book.