By Jeff Emmerson
Hi there, and thank you for checking out The Adult ADHD Blog! A quick thank you to everyone helping me explode awareness through this blog, on Twitter, YouTube and in your own cities. We are really getting the word out about how adult ADHD is costing our society, and about the challenges we face every single day – give yourself credit! We’re all in this together, and I’ve got big plans for this blog, including a re-design and self-hosted “update” in the next week! That will give me a ton of customization options, and skyrocket my page views/SEO through Google. Then even more “traction” will be realized. Now onto today’s post!
If there’s a single thing that has hurt my progress in this life, it’s what I call “getting in my own way” through deciding I want to achieve a particular goal, going a hundred miles an hour toward it by working painfully hard, intensely and purposefully, only to burnout once I realize it’s not going to be achieved overnight!
WOW – Story of my life for a lot of years. God, I could be a Ph.D two times over by now if I had just stuck to a few specific goals instead of racing at them right off the bat, then crashing just as fast. I lost so much credibility that way, burned a ton of bridges, and wore myself down to the bone in the process, wearing to exhaustion and an eventual suicide attempt before finally being diagnosed with adult ADHD.
I’ve finally got it through my thick skull that achieving goals takes TIME and daily, consistent effort, even when things get rough, exhausting and you don’t know if you’re going to achieve the vision you have for yourself. As I just saw on Twitter, the quote by Thomas Edison about many of life’s failures being due to people quitting because they didn’t recognize how close they were to success is very true! Building a blog like this, finishing the next draft of my up-coming memoir, and building my social media platform takes daily, consistent effort, as do the goals you’d LOVE to achieve in your heart. A few tips:
- Take breaks often when you feel like you’re burning out
- Remember why you started in the first place every time you get frustrated
- Be gentle on yourself! For God’s sake…if you aren’t, nothing else will work
- Keep reminding yourself: BABY STEPS to success, and savor the journey!
Those are just a few tips, but medication, therapy and/or breathing techniques can also change your life with adult ADHD. The key is to find the right “mix” of one or some of these solutions, figuring out what works for YOU, since everyone’s so different.
When you believe in yourself, reach out to others for support (we’re out there, and we care!!), and start EVERY day with these “rules” in mind, you’re well on your way to a more meaningful, satisfying life, come hell or high water. You can see that hard times always pass, but success stays with you forever when you think about it. There is a blueprint to achievement with adult ADHD. You just have to put in the time and open your mind to a new way of looking at things. Not always easy, but what ever was that’s worthwhile? It’s WORTH IT. I know that now.