By Jeff Emmerson
First, let me say that the title isn’t referring to adult ADHD hyperfocus, which I’m very well-known for when I’m passionate about something. I am talking about stopping the racing/distraction in our heads through purposeful, intentional focus on solely the moment at hand – that’s all – JUST the moment right now.
Can you do it, I mean can you really do it? It’s not easy to let go of the control we seek so desperately during our day-to-day. Wow, do I wish I would have realized just how important living in the moment is over the years of my obsession over achieving a mission I was on. I literally “flew” through moments that were so very sacred in life: time with my beloved Dad, my Grandmother, with friends, and other times where I should have been savoring the moment, but all my damn mind could think about was proving myself after being charged and convicted for uttering threats, having a 10-year ban on handling a gun, which WAS my mission (to work for an armored car company, since I loved the idea of the responsibility and protocol after working as a casino security guard for a few years)!
If I only knew what I know now, as they often say. The key is to not dwell on what “might have been.” That’s absolutely HUGE. All that you or I can do is continually learn, my friend! It’s true. Nothing good comes from wallowing in our past, though as a sentimental fool, I do enjoy reflecting on just how far I’ve come in life. I’ve found my own way to live in the moment, to see the big picture of life, and go from thoughts and hopes for the future to coming back to the moment, daydreaming about the past (the good times and challenges I’ve overcome), then back to the moment again, rinse, repeat. Your brain is different from mine, of course, so you’ve got to find your own piece of happiness, your own “routine” of thinking that empowers you. ‘Notice I said EMPOWERS you, not depresses you!
Living in the moment has brought me such peace, even though I have fears, like all of us do. Will I live a full life? That and a ton of other worries enter my mind at times, but I REMEMBER to let go whenever they do, not to give them any additional worry, which just hurts us, makes us feel bad, and wrecks the present moment over something that may never happen! What the hell’s the sense of worry? Maybe so we prepare in positive ways to live the best way possible to minimize risks – sure, but it’s a very fine line between positive worry and ferocious anxiety! The irony is that anxiety hurts our health! That much we know for sure. You guarantee you hurt your health with worry, so why the hell do it? Maybe a medication, therapy or other intervention is desperately needed if your worry is out of control. Are you a “drama queen,” so to speak? Needing attention from others due to your own mental health challenges, your past, or for some other reason? Then do yourself a favor and do something positive about it instead of repeating the same self-sabotaging patterns. Who the hell wants to live like that? No one.
Anyway, living in the moment with Adult ADHD is like a prescription in itself, when we focus on the beauty of life, how lucky we are to have our health, those we love, the sky, food, and the opportunity to follow our hearts! We don’t live in a concentration camp, after all. We aren’t on death row, odds are.
See what I mean? Perspective is everything! Get out of your own small world in your head, open your eyes, and be grateful regularly! What an amazing way to change your life, one day at a time. That’s exactly what I have been doing, and I still push myself to do it every single day. Some days it’s easier than others, and that’s OK, too!
See the messages between the lines here? Time for a change, I say…..Enough is enough of the rat-race dominating us, right? We CAN decide to adopt our own perspective, to change the way we see things, and to witness the things we see change as a direct result. Thank God I did.